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标题: 所谓的爱情，曾经爱上是否就是永远？ [打印本页]

作者: 叶子1018 时间: 2007-6-27 11:58
标题: 所谓的爱情，曾经爱上是否就是永远？
上午的时候，突然听说过去的好朋友，一对曾经很恩爱的夫妻，现在正准备办理离婚，听说过太多的悲欢离合，担当故事发生在身边，还是觉得很伤感，所谓的爱情，到底是什么，永远有多远？ [modify]1182917049,叶子1018[/modify]

作者: oldsss 时间: 2007-6-27 12:14
标题: 除了运动与变化是永恒的，其他的所谓“永远”都是不存在的。还是调整心态，随其自然吧！
[sign]夫夷以近，则游者众。险以远，则至者少。而世之奇伟瑰怪非常之观，常在于险远，而人之所罕至焉，故非有志者不能至也。――王安石[/sign]

作者: 慢牛 时间: 2007-6-27 12:37
标题: 永远是指爱情时间而不是生命时间。这两个时间都只能回头来看有多长都是不可预知的。往前走，爱情可能会有一二三，而生命只有一次
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珍惜生活享受每一天
这里是BG1AOO，美好的73送给你！ :-)[/sign]

作者: 叶子1018 时间: 2007-6-27 13:04
标题: 但那曾是冲破双方家长千般劝阻、万般阻挠才得以成功的婚姻啊,为了爱为了孩子，为什么不能改变自己一点点、妥协不也是爱的一种么
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作者: helen1 时间: 2007-6-27 13:10
标题: 他们也许妥协过,但那毕竟是他们自己的事情,无论什么样的结局都应该对己负责..
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作者: 小馋馋 时间: 2007-6-27 13:50
标题: 没有绝对的东西
作为意识形态的一种表现形式,爱情更不是绝对的
爱上不代表什么
有太多的东西会影响
爱是很脆弱的
旁观者不一定看得清

作者: 叶子1018 时间: 2007-6-27 13:54
标题: 世事沧桑，人生无常。。。

作者: happyan 时间: 2007-6-27 14:14
标题: 不好意思，我相信永远
只不过形式是不同的~~~~ [sign]中文名：我很牛 :-D
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我想我上辈子是懦夫，下辈子是王子，这辈子最好安分一点；天才就怕不够天才，坏又不够坏，天天都想要离开，却不知道到哪里能够换一步脱胎[/sign]

作者: 冬妮MM 时间: 2007-6-27 15:18
标题: 我相信只要曾经相爱过，就是真实的，就是值得珍藏的回忆。
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人生就是一场戏，我要扮演好自己的角色。我就是我，是颜色不一样的烟火，我喜欢我，孤独的沙漠里一样盛放的赤裸裸。
暂时将心冷藏，这样就不怕再受伤了。 :-P[/sign]

作者: 忽然想通了 时间: 2007-6-27 15:35
标题: 他们的爱情是永远的，呵呵，你可以放心！现在破裂的不过是他们的婚姻罢了，对不？
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周六爬爬山
周日睡睡觉
周一看照片
周二读游记
周三找计划
周四来确认
周五灌灌水
周六~~~呵呵~~又出发喽~~~~~~~~[/sign]

作者: 细语 时间: 2007-6-27 15:59
标题: “幸福的婚姻都是相似的，不幸的婚姻各有不同”，这句话好像是托尔斯泰说的，不记得原话了：）
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作者: 铁腕盘古 时间: 2007-6-27 16:41
标题: 这个问题身在其中永远困惑，做为旁观者好像总能找到出路。

作者: 叶子1018 时间: 2007-6-27 17:16
标题: 还是期待、祝福白首偕老的爱情和婚姻！
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作者: 翘辫子 时间: 2007-6-27 18:46
标题: 爱情经历过了，不管结果！都是你一生的财富！女人逐渐退却青涩，男人逐渐平添成熟！
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花谢花飞飞满天，红消香断有谁怜？
游丝软系飘春榭，落絮轻沾扑绣帘。
一年三百六十日，风刀霜剑严相逼。
明媚鲜妍能几时，一朝漂泊难寻觅。
花开易见落难寻，阶前愁煞葬花人。
独倚花锄偷洒泪，洒上空枝见血痕。
愿奴胁下生双翼，随花飞到天尽头。
天尽头[qu[/sign]

作者: 慢牛 时间: 2007-6-27 20:29
标题: 国外有人做过研究，发现解除婚姻对男人的打击要大于女人，与潜意识里女人更受伤害相反。可惜找不到那个帖子了。
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珍惜生活享受每一天
这里是BG1AOO，美好的73送给你！ :-)[/sign]

作者: 琪琪 时间: 2007-6-28 09:12
标题: 如果曾经爱上的，不是对面的伴侣，而是……
自己在对方那面“镜子”里面看到的自我，那么，即使这份爱能够永远，却又怎能够抵挡分离？

作者: 0919草帽 时间: 2007-6-28 09:37
标题: 深刻! 与爱人的分离大多是缘于你过于恋爱自我.
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作者: 叶子1018 时间: 2007-6-28 09:39
标题: 是否是无论爱情和婚姻，都需要俩人共同的努力与成长，怕就怕，原地踏步而又自以为是永远正确的人，呵呵，又回到所谓的“理性”了

作者: 细语 时间: 2007-6-28 09:52
标题: 只能说，当我们走近爱情走进婚姻的时候，我们的愿望都是美好的，而现在的结果只是无奈，而不是我们最初的本意。。。

作者: 咸水鱼 时间: 2007-6-28 15:07
标题: 我要离婚了，挺痛苦的。希望所有有家的人能够珍惜现在所拥有的一切，能够携手到老，多体谅、理解、关心自己的另一半，别太自我。

作者: 完颜若雪 时间: 2007-6-28 21:51
标题: 爱难永恒,偶有意外……
曾经兴匆匆的给同事随份子，看他准备婚礼的幸福样子，好羡慕……
半年后，不知道什么原因两个人就离婚了。一样的人，一样的脸，可叹世事多变迁…… [sign]当时明月在,曾照彩云归~……[/sign]

作者: 自由笑猫咪 时间: 2007-6-29 15:56
标题: 爱情就是你一想到对方时候，嘴角上扬，心里甜蜜。少要求，多付出，永远就是好远好远。

作者: rockie 时间: 2007-6-30 06:41
标题: 找着了。请进：
是这个吗？

Men more prone to depression after a divorce, study finds

Published: Tuesday, May 22, 2007 | 3:51 PM ET
Canadian Press: LORRAYNE ANTHONY

TORONTO (CP) - The stereotype might be that a man relishes trading his wife for a fast car or a younger woman, but a new study finds that men appear to take separation harder than women.

While both men and women whose marriages have dissolved have a higher risk of being depressed than people who remained with their spouses, a Statistics Canada study found that men who had divorced or separated were six times more likely to report an episode of depression compared with men who remained married.

Women who had undergone marital breakups were 3.5 times more likely to have had bouts of depression than their counterparts who were still in relationships.

The survey found that 12 per cent of people who were no longer in a relationship reported a new episode of depression, while just three per cent of those who remained in a relationship had suffered new depression.

Michelle Rotermann, the author of the study, said she was surprised, and also not surprised, by the results.

"On the one hand we know depression in general tends to be more common among women, but there is also a lot of evidence that shows that men have fewer social supports and social support does seem to play a role," she said.

"

erhaps one of the reasons why men are more at risk of experiencing subsequent depression is because one of their main sources of social support is their partner, their spouse, and now she is no longer there," said Rotermann, an analyst at Statistics Canada.

Nineteen per cent of men who were no longer with their spouse found a decline in social support, while only six per cent of men who remained in a relationship found a drop. Among women the proportions were 11 per cent for those no longer in a relationship and five for those who were.

Jenni Tipper, a research associate with the Vanier Institute of the Family in Ottawa, said "typically women are much better at building and maintaining social supports, which isn't often the case for men."

After a breakup, women tended to live in households with an income ranking far below that of their male counterparts. In fact, nearly 30 per cent of recently divorced or separated men actually experienced an improvement in the ranking of their adjusted household income, the study reported.

The study found that 34 per cent of men and three per cent of women were residing with at least one less child after the breakdown of their relationship.

Tipper said the study is a good reminder that the breakdown of a marriage is an extremely challenging transition for everybody involved.

"We sometimes tend to think that it's the woman who bears the brunt of a divorce outcome. And there is no question that women experience higher levels of economic strife," Tipper said. "What we tend to forget in many instances, for the men in particular, they see children all but removed from their lives, which is a huge impact on your life."

The study said the relationship between marital breakup and depression was independent of other factors associated with breakups - changes in household income, social support or the number of children in the household.

More than three-quarters of those who suffered depression in the post-relationship period were no longer depressed four years after the breakup, the findings show.

"It sort of suggests that, for the majority, the effects of your relationship breaking up ... people seem to get back on their feet but there is this significant minority for whom trouble seems to persist," said Rotermann.

The study was based on longitudinal data from the National Population Health Survey, which was taken at two-year intervals between 1994 and 2005. The 7,614 respondents were between the ages of 20 and 64, and free of depression and in a relationship the first time they were interviewed.

© The Canadian Press, 2007

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